It’s possible to build a life you love from the life loss forced you to live.

1:1 Grief Guidance is personalized coaching that helps you move through the pain of grief and find peace, purpose, and joy after devastating loss.

1:1 Grief Guidance is for you if...

  • You’re feeling lost, trapped, stuck, or overwhelmed.

  • You’re unsure of which direction is best for you.

  • You’re struggling to picture a joyful future.

  • You feel intense pressure to “get grief right.”

  • You’re seeking vocabulary or framework to describe your grief.

  • You’re resentful of others who have “moved on.”

  • You’re grieving multiple losses but aren’t sure how to process them.

  • You’re struggling with guilt, regret, anger, or disappointment.

  • You’re navigating strained relationships and friendships after loss.

  • You’re sick of feeling like you have to go it alone.

I’ve helped dozens of grieving people cope with heartbreak, hopelessness, and despair after loss.

Here’s what they have to say:

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By the end of our time together, I wasn't so consumed by my grief and did not feel broken. Shelby helped me normalize what felt insurmountable and lonely, and helped me find balance and relief.

— Karen M., Australia


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Shelby met me right where I was: rock bottom. She helped me get back in touch with myself, trust my intuition, and remain vulnerable instead of building a wall around my heart. She helped me navigate a really hard experience and come back to life.

— Lyn, Germany 


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Shelby’s intuition and wisdom gave me the ability to put things into perspective, leading me on a path of reorientation. I was able to shift my expectations which in turn helped me navigate a very difficult loss. She created a safe place from which I could regroup and move forward!

— G. Walkling, Canada

FAQ

  • Tailored-to-you support surrounding one big grief roadblock you’re currently facing. Come with a question or pain point and leave with practical, actionable ways to move through it.

    By the end of our session, you should have a sense of what to do next, a feeling that you’ve been seen, heard, and understood where you are in your grief, and greater compassion for yourself and your journey.

    Common questions I work through with clients:

    • I feel so lost. How do I find my way again?

    • How do I stop the anxiety of waiting for the other shoe to drop?

    • I feel like no one understands my grief. What do I say to friends and family to help them support me?

    • How do I find peace/purpose/wholeness/hope/happiness again?

    • I’m not the person I used to be. How do I grieve my old life and the life I was supposed to live?

    • How do I cope with guilt and regret?

    • How can I remember my loss but still feel like I’m moving forward?

  • 50 minutes.

  • A notebook and something to write with.

  • Zoom.

  • Absolutely, although because grief can be emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually taxing, I encourage you to schedule sessions at least 7-14 days apart.

  • My first and most important qualification is that I am a grieving person just like you, having lost my mother suddenly in 2013 and my best friend of more than a decade in 2022. I’ve also experienced many non-death losses including devastating breakups, life-changing diagnoses, and the global grief of living through the COVID-19 pandemic.

    I know what it’s like to have your entire life turned upside-down by loss and what it feels like to assemble—piece-by-painstaking-piece—a joyful, meaningful life from a reality you never wanted to be true.

    Beyond my personal experience, I am and continue to be a “student of grief,” reading grief books, speaking with grief experts, and studying new lenses and frameworks with which to view loss. I’ve published two books on grief and my work has been quoted in Oprah Magazine, Huffington Post, and Talk Death, just to name a few. I’ve also had the privilege of writing for grief support companies like Help Texts and teaching workshops for organizations like Happify and Modern Loss.

    In more than seven years of grief coaching, I’ve helped dozens of people find peace, purpose, and joy after devastating loss. I’d be honored to help you do the same.

    *Please note I am not a mental health or medical provider. Click here for my disclaimer.

  • Grief Guidance and therapy are different in two significant ways:

    1) Therapy is generally past-oriented, helping you process what happened and make sense of it now in the present. 1:1 Grief Guidance is predominantly future-oriented, considering where you’d like to go and providing you with the tools and frameworks you’ll need to get there. Yes, we’ll talk about the past, but our primary focus is where you want to end up in the future.

    2) Grief is just one component of the therapy umbrella. Most grief counselors receive a master's degree in community counseling, mental health counseling, or family counseling, and specific coursework on grief, at least in the United States, is sadly optional or nonexistent. [SOURCE] When you work with me 1:1, you get a deep dive into grief and only grief. My sole mission as your guide is to help you move through the pain, stuckness, and overwhelm of grief and find create a good life after loss, whatever that looks like to you.

    Please know, I have absolutely nothing against therapy and have employed it myself to mourn many types of losses. But 1:1 Grief Guidance is not therapy; it was never designed to be. It makes a wonderful compliment to therapy—if you’re already in it—and a worthwhile alternative if you’re interested in receiving laser-focused support for grief and loss.

  • Yes, absolutely. I’ve worked with many grieving people internationally.

    Please know that I am only fluent in English, so an excellent English language proficiency (B2 or above on the CEFR scale) is necessary.

  • A single 1:1 Grief Guidance Session is $200.

    You can save $200 by purchasing a package of six 1:1 Grief Guidance Sessions for $1,000.

  • I charge a fair market rate for 1:1 support based on my years of experience, client results, and other grief professionals' rates both in my city and online.

    That being said, I wholeheartedly acknowledge that grief is a financial game-changer, especially for those already marginalized by systemic inequality and structural racism, ableism, and heteronormativity.

    If you are a BIPOC griever, an LGBTQ+ griever, a disabled griever, or a grieving person facing financial hardship, please take 18% off a single 1:1 session with the code: DAISY18. If you would like to purchase a package of six 1:1 sessions, you can take 18% off your package with the code: DAISY18PACKAGE.

    This is a no-questions-asked, nothing-to-prove honor system. Your discount is applied immediately upon checkout. I trust you to know what you can afford right now in your grief.

    If this price point is still out-of-reach for you, I encourage you to explore my library of online courses as well as my many free offerings including my podcasts, books (many libraries carry them!), YouTube videos, and Insight Timer meditations.