If you want to know how to support a grieving friend without saying the wrong thing—or disappearing altogether—you are not alone. In this “Ask Shelby” episode, I share practical, compassionate guidance for what to say to someone grieving, using words that actually help in the days, months, and years after loss.

What do you do with a person’s things after they die? Charlene Lam joins me to explore “the stuff of grief”—and how curating can become a meaningful, healing practice. We talk about her 3-step method, the roles objects play in grief, and why you may be more of a curator than you think.

“Time heals all” is one of the most commonly repeated phrases in grief support—but is it actually helpful? Discover the history behind this platitude, why it often causes more harm than good, and what actually supports healing after loss.

If you’ve ever felt broken, lost, or completely alone in your grief, this episode is for you. I’m sharing 15 short, nonreligious affirmations that have brought me comfort and a sense of stability in grief’s hardest moments—along with insights from my students inside Life After Loss Academy.

You’ve probably heard it—or maybe even said it: “I can’t imagine what you’re going through.” It sounds compassionate on the surface, but it often creates emotional distance instead of connection. In this episode, I explain why this common sympathy phrase misses the mark for many grievers and what to say that’s actually comforting.

When someone dies, social media can feel like the last thing on your mind. But often times, posting online the best way to update lots of friends and family at once. In this episode, I'll give you a clear, step-by-step framework for announcing a death on Facebook, Instagram, or other social media platforms with heart, compassion, and care.

The quote: “Grief is just love with no place to go” is everywhere, but it doesn’t tell the whole story of life after loss. In this episode, I’m offering another definition for what grief really is, especially when love isn’t the defining emotion.