Get helpful tools and hopeful conversations on my podcast, Grief Grower.

Getting support is important after loss, but it can feel hard to ask for it. Today, I’m sharing seven practical, gentle ways to ask for help after loss—especially when your energy is low and even naming what you need feels overwhelming. I'll talk about how to get support with both the logistics of daily life and the emotional weight of grief.

In this unedited, in-the-moment episode of Grief Grower, I’m unboxing my new book, Of Course I’m Here Right Now and sharing what it’s about, who it’s for, and why words matter so much in grief. You’ll also hear a short excerpt from the introduction.

If you’ve ever wondered what to say to someone grieving—or worried about saying the wrong thing—this episode will help you understand why words matter more than you think, get helpful scripts to say after any kind of loss, and learn how to use words to support someone with care and confidence.

Grief doesn’t come with built-in reason or purpose, and it definitely doesn’t follow a straight line! In this conversation with therapist and author Alex Mammadyarov, we explore what it actually looks like to grow through grief in real life—not in theory.

Learn six powerful ways your words can support someone who is grieving using the SCRABL structure from my new book Of Course I'm Here Right Now. If you’ve ever worried about saying the wrong thing, you’ll gain a deeper understanding of why words matter—plus simple, meaningful scripts you can use right away.

Grief rarely gets better all at once, but there are quiet, meaningful signs that it’s shifting. This "Ask Shelby" episode answers a question many grieving people carry: How will I know I’m going to be okay? You’ll hear five real-life indicators of healing, plus reflection questions to help you see your own growth.

If you’ve been told to “find closure” after a loss, you’re not alone—but that advice may be doing you more harm than good. Closure in grief is often treated as the ultimate goal of healing, yet many grieving people find it impossible—or even undesirable. I agree with them!