E66: How to Be Kinder to Yourself in Grief With One Simple, Compassionate Phrase

Written By Shelby Forsythia

After a loss, it's common to criticize yourself for crying too much, forgetting things, or not functioning like you used to. Today I'm teaching one of my students' favorite tools for building instant self-compassion: a simple two-word phrase you can add to anything you're doing throughout your day.

You'll learn:

  • The difference between critical and compassionate self-talk after loss

  • A simple two-word phrase that instantly softens how you speak to yourself

  • The psychology behind why this small linguistic shift actually works

  • How this tool fits into the bigger practice of integrating loss into your life

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E66: How to Be Kinder to Yourself in Grief With One Simple, Compassionate Phrase
Shelby Forsythia, Grief Coach and Author

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Shelby Forsythia

Shelby Forsythia (she/her) is a grief coach, author, and podcast host. In 2020, she founded Life After Loss Academy, an online course and community that has helped dozens of grievers grow and find their way after death, divorce, diagnosis, and other major life transitions.

Following her mother’s death in 2013, Shelby began calling herself a “student of grief” and now devotes her days to reading, writing, and speaking about loss. Through a combination of mindfulness tools and intuitive, open-ended questions, she guides her clients to welcome grief as a teacher and create meaningful lives that honor and include the heartbreaks they’ve faced. Her work has been featured in Huffington Post, Bustle, and The Oprah Magazine.

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